It was almost trivial. My father did something that made me look bad in front of other people. Later I asked him in private why he did it? And he was shocked. He tried to accuse me of something that wasn’t true. Long story short: He finally said, “Then I’ll disinherit you.” He didn’t speak to me for a few months – typical aloof control drama behavior. And then he passed away. I voluntarily renounced my inheritance then, because nobody knew about this our conversation.

It wasn’t because of what I said, as I had thought for a very long time. It was because I asked him to take responsibility. This wasn’t the usual way we communicated. I’ve always been respectful and honorable to my father. Even when I had a different opinion, I avoided direct confrontation. I knew his nature. It was my fear of punishment in action.

This time I just didn’t act like he was used to, and it shocked him. His spontaneous reaction was intense. He wanted to shut me up. The only option that came to mind was to threaten me. My personal financial interest versus my own truth.

The threat didn’t work. I chose my truth. And he had no other reason than to make me obey.

Because that’s exactly what it was: a power game. In which I refused to participate. Later he probably understood. I have no idea is it his pride that wouldn’t let him admit that maybe he made a mistake. But I love him for who he is. And respect his choices.

That’s how I grew to my freedom. Choosing my truth over financial interests. It wasn’t an easy choice. But it was a conscious one. Punishment was not because I made something bad. It was because I do not obey.

Daily writing prompt

Describe one positive change you have made in your life.

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