As Albert Einstein said, “Everything is energy.” But esotericists say that money itself is not energy. Money is just a vehicle that carries the energy of the giver.

So what? If I feel fear when I give you money, the energy you receive from me is fear itself. Believe it or not. But that’s the essence of the scarcity mentality – if you feel that the giver of money is afraid that there is not enough, your thinking rationalizes this emotion and internalizes it as a belief: people do not have enough money. Then we start to see this everywhere – this is how cognitive distortions work. So when we only see people who do not have enough money, and we are aware that we can only get money in exchange with another person, we can easily come to the wrong conclusion that there is not enough money in general. It’s that simple.

For a very long time, receiving money brought me pain. I could not easily realize this, but I remembered the pain of my mother giving me money in my childhood. So I started to avoid asking. Who wants to hurt their mother in the end. And then I carried that same pattern into my professional life – I felt that when I asked for money for my services, people felt pain. So quite often I offered my services for free, trying to protect these people from their pain. Because I mistakenly thought that I was the one causing them this pain. Actually, a very big lie. To myself. Because trying to take responsibility for protecting others from their pain is not a virtue. It’s actually a disservice, because I’m depriving them of the chance to change. Pain is the great catalyst for change. And it’s their pain, not something I’m causing them by simply asking for money for my services.

At the same time, when I was giving money, I felt lightness, most of the time curiosity, even joy. But at some point it became clear to me that I had a very hard time accepting the pain of the other person and processing it internally in order to give with the usual ease that I have. So making money seemed very difficult for me. So I just collapsed at one point – too much weight on my shoulders. I went through a long recovery period to release all the pain that had built up in my emotional system so that I could start working again, but this time without taking responsibility for other people’s pain – with respect for their emotions, but without taking responsibility for them. And a miracle happened – I started receiving money with gratitude. And the catalyst for this transformation was my own pain.

So, it is not a virtue to try to protect people from their pain. Period!

I would love for you to share below how you feel when you receive money and what energy you put into the money vehicle when you give money. Thank you!