The fear of asking for money

When someone says to me, “Pay me whatever you want,” I can feel the intense cognitive dissonance in the air. The person is clearly asking for money for what they’ve provided, but they’re afraid to say it directly, so stating a price becomes torture for them. And for me, too. Because somehow I feel like […]

How do you give money?

As Albert Einstein said, “Everything is energy.” But esotericists say that money itself is not energy. Money is just a vehicle that carries the energy of the giver. So what? If I feel fear when I give you money, the energy you receive from me is fear itself. Believe it or not. But that’s the […]

Who’s in power?

Walking down the street of my daily life, I see a lot of power plays every day. For example, a friend of mine who tries to impose his opinion aggressively, as if his life depends on it, and I’m sure that’s exactly what it is for him, because he subconsciously identifies with his opinion, so […]

Coercion is pathetic

Coercion is a form of control that involves using force or manipulation to make someone do something against their true will. Says Dr. Najmun Riyaz on her website. I can understand people who feel desperate and use coercion because they are afraid of losing something that is meaningful to them, such as a desire for power that […]

Why helping others is not a virtue ?

For a long time, I thought I was doing good for others who couldn’t do something for themselves. I understood their urgency, desperation, anxiety, panic or their sense of helplessness. What I really understood was how they felt. My empathy was so strong that I could experience their emotions through my body, and sometimes it […]

Why isn’t it working for you?

So… You want to retire, but you don’t want to depend on your country’s pension system? You want to retire in a beautiful place, without any financial constraints? So, are you doing your job right, or are you doing the right job that needs to be done? Ever since we were children, people have been […]

I Don’t Have Money

I’ve heard this many times from my father, from friends and colleagues. I’ve heard myself say this to someone in the past and even to myself. My mother didn’t tell me, but it was even worse because I could see her face when I asked for money as a child. So I subconsciously started avoiding […]

Nobody cares about me

I experience it many times every day. I receive the next spam email from a stranger. This person is halfway around the world and has somehow gotten hold of my email. Does he care about me ? Asking for water and the flight attendant at the Philippine airline tells me they don’t accept card payments. […]

Because they don’t like what I’ve done ?

It was almost trivial. My father did something that made me look bad in front of other people. Later I asked him in private why he did it? And he was shocked. He tried to accuse me of something that wasn’t true. Long story short: He finally said, “Then I’ll disinherit you.” He didn’t speak […]

I wish I could respect others more

I don’t trust others enough anymore. In the past, when someone treated me disrespectfully, I had the strength to understand. I tried to convince myself that their intentions weren’t bad. Maybe the person was having a bad day or something stressful happened in their life. I believed that they weren’t inherently rude. I just changed […]