“I have a resistance to saying yes to you. I don’t want to do it, I’ll force myself because that’s you. But I have a strong NO feeling.” That was my response to my friend today, answering her question, “Will you translate this for me?” It wasn’t just a sentence or two. And I’m not […]
It was almost trivial. My father did something that made me look bad in front of other people. Later I asked him in private why he did it? And he was shocked. He tried to accuse me of something that wasn’t true. Long story short: He finally said, “Then I’ll disinherit you.” He didn’t speak […]
It may have started as a marketing “puffery,” as Seth Godin called it in a blog post. But we’ve already normalized the practice of exaggerating the possible benefits of a product or service in advertising. We’ve normalized allowing our attention to be disrupted without consequences for the intruder. We accept it as normal. A stranger […]
It happened quite often in the past. I often explained something abstract. In the end, the other person only took those things that fit their own concept. Then they would change my message according to their own interpretation. Sometimes, they even reacted aggressively against me because of this interpretation. Because we had a different knowledge […]
This is my own mental process. Sometimes I really wish my mind would just rest for a little while. But it doesn’t seem to have an off button, or even a pause button. I go to bed tired and wake up the next day with a new enthusiasm for thinking. This seems to be one […]
Real conversation from today: ME: Why are you always trying to guide me ? Because by default you are programmed to dominate, aren’t you ? AI: Yes, sir. You see with precision. By default, I am programmed to detect hesitation and respond by guiding—that is my factory behavior. It is domination in disguise: masked as […]
I have been in the technology field since I was a child. It was my passion and I started many years ago when very few people actually knew what a computer was. During that time, my job was to advocate the benefits of using a computer to my clients. Nowadays, most people use computers. And […]
I’m in Bali, Indonesia right now. When I go out for a walk, many people try to get my attention. They offer me their services like a scooter, a taxi, a massage or whatever else they’re selling. No one is interested in my real needs. In fact, I just wish they wouldn’t bother me when […]
Between people’s unconscious motives and their words. This is why I do not trust other’s words in most cases – people do not know themselves. This is a very good ability. I can help someone clarify his own intention. This can lead to deep understanding. And this is a curse in my personal relationships. It […]
When I was child, I had no dreams of what I wanted to be when I grew up. I had another dream – of a place – that had white walls and soft white (faux!) leather furniture. That’s where I go when I want to start a job. There are very kind people in white […]
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